"The problem is that life has a habit of replacing one challenge with another. As one difficulty disappears, another often arrives quietly in its place."

Quote of the day by German philosopher Immanuel Kant:

"“When I could have used a wife, I could not support one; and when I could support one, I no longer needed one.”

“When I had a wife, I could support one; and when I could not support one, I could have used one , and I turned away what I had already, and the one I had can now support me, still loves me, now why on earth would I do such a thing unto myself, and to my wife ? "
"for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health"  standard oath that was probably made many years ago, holding a couple together through the thick and thin, sometimes it's all you got, humbly hang on to that , it is possible and is encouraged 

https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/rest-of-world/quote-of-the-day-by-german-philosopher-immanuel-kant-when-i-could-have-used-a-wife-i-could-not-support-one-and-when-i-could/amp_articleshow/131240165.cms

is it really a problem, life has its ways , interesting quote and wonderful reflection on the quote for Kant in the article 

got me thinking about a couple couples, some similarities come to mind. 

One where a see a happy man who has a hard disability for some time, very positive and loving personality towards people and his wife. His wife a lovely lady who cares for him and seems quite happy and content. 

The other I see a struggle, a man who finds himself disabled and his role changing from provider to dependent. I feel the struggle, the loss. I also see a wife who wants to be there for him but is rejected and is told they are to be no more. A sadness that is heavy and painful, yet a desire to keep it together, perhaps a healing can come about, a prayerful miracle of restoration is a petition before the Lord day and night. 

I wish the two couples could meet. The first to share the struggle that they must surely have gone through., and how they made it through. Perhaps this could be an encouragement to the 2nd to accept the change and make the best of it so that the relationship can be a beautiful testimony of health and love through a struggling time. 

I see the life  in both , I see the pain, I pray for restoration for the 2nd, as roles change , I see that it can be good as it is for the 1st. I am sure there are challenges for the 1st. However, they seem to make it work, have fun, stay positive, and that is encouraging and thus my reflection and connecting of these similar situations, both at different timelines in their lives seems good to me. 

Lord it's in your hands. Plans change, however many parts of the plan are what was expected. May it alL work out, restore the joy and make peace , the future will be better for it. TLR

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Marriage Tips To Wrap Up 2020

Will add a few tips that I have been receiving lately, I hope they encourage you and your spouse or perhaps a friend that you share this link with. TLR

Article#1

A simple way to make your spouse's day — and your marriage — better.

"By considering these scenarios, you’ll create more opportunity to use such language elsewhere. Validation is a powerful tool: used correctly, you’re showing your partner not only that you recognize how hard he or she is working, but that you express this appreciation in small, obvious ways. As often, it’s the simplest things that have the biggest results." .... 

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/show-your-partner-appreciation-in-a-marriage/

 Article#2

 https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/traits-all-happily-married-men-share/

Article # 3

The first step is to, well, try to be a better husband. We’re not kidding around. The best marriages are those in which both members play active roles, where they not only identify their flaws (i.e. “I invalidate your feelings too much”; “I often bring home work stress”) but also find ways to fix them. In attempting to know yourself better — your strengths, your weaknesses, your sometimes-good-sometimes-bad-tendencies — you will become not just a good husband but an evolving one. In other words: Make an effort, do the work, and you’ll be rewarded. Want to start? Well, there are a number of small, simple things that all of us can focus on to be happier, more present, and more attentive husbands and partners. Like these nine items right here.

https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/marriage-advice-be-better-husband-nine-simple-ways/

Got a copy of these tonight in my meeting notes from last weeks meeting. During our Rotary meeting, we have a joke master and Don DeGroot provided these for our enjoyment. 

The love of my life made me puff ball bread sticks tonight and a smoothie, that’s pretty good for a 9 pm snack on a Sunday night!

Answers to questions about Love and Marriage from six to ten year olds